Friday, May 14, 2010

How Very 'Young'!

My mom knew that simplistic, little me had been craving the perfect set of basic white dishes. I love food and for me personally when I look at a plate, I want the food to be the centerpiece. So when my mom pointed these out to me in the Deseret Book catalog I was smitten! They fulfill the very basic, white element I want but also inject some special meaning in a subtle way. The dinnerware has a Beehive on the top of the plate and it reminded me of when I went to Utah and toured Brigham Young's house. He used the Beehive to symbolize the importance of a strong work ethic. I loved touring that house, the Beehive House, seeing how they lived and imagining the lives that unfolded there. The best part though was seeing the Bronze bust of 'Uncle Brigham' when I was touring the Conference Center and looking at his forehead and laughing, realizing it is the EXACT SAME one as my husband's. It felt really special to be able to tangibly see and touch pieces of Justin's family's past and know that same blood that ran through the veins of the people in that home now runs through my girl's veins. It was pretty awesome.

Another reason I love the Beehive is because my mom calls my girls "The Busy Bees" because well...they never stop! They are constantly buzzing around in perpetual motion. So I loved the Beehive on there for that reason too, it reminded me of my girls. So imagine my absolute delight and giddiness when my mom came home from a trip to Boise with eight place settings of these wonderful dishes for me! I am so grateful and look forward to serving so many family dinners on these dishes. Here's to many memorable meals in the Young family! Thank you SO MUCH Mom! I love you!

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

I Needed This...




Lately I have felt a little off. Maybe it's been pregnancy hormones. Maybe it's because I'm out of my familiars. Maybe it's because I'm still working through the emotions of everything that has happened recently in my life with a big move and all that it entails. Whatever it is, I've been on edge. Not always, but more than usual, I feel scrappier than normal with my guard up. Something in my subconscious doesn't want to surrender to emotion and I don't know why. Maybe it's because I feel the need to be strong for everyone in my life. I'm a scrapper, I'm a fighter, I can do it, I can take it... until those days where you can't. Until those days where you want to stay in bed and tell the world to go away.


I've been struggling to figure out why it is we are in Oregon. I love, love, love having my parents near by and people have been very friendly and caring to me. But something is off. I get irritated at the weather or lack of things I loved in the South. I miss my friends and family and despite all the good around me, I've allowed myself to feel kind of isolated. I keep hoping that one day I'm going to wake up and everything will be the way it was. That I'll have all my dear friends and family around me, that I'll know where my life will be taking me beyond the next 18 months. That I will feel like the future is a great place to shoot towards, rather than a big, looming unknown. That I will have that feeling of contentment rather than dread.


I've also had a hard time as a mother. I love my kids with all my heart and would do anything for them. But I have felt the weight of motherhood on my shoulders. How can I do and be for all of them and be just what they all individually need? How can I listen to Brynna's questions and focus Maryn and peel Lauryn off the floor in one of her tantrums and clean house and make dinner AND get ready to do it all again with this little one? How? How, how, how?! I try to have faith that this pregnancy was part of the Lord's plan. Because neither Justin and I would have planned this right now in a million years. How can I do this? Please tell me because I don't want my kids to grow up feeling I was only there going through the motions. I want them to know that I do care about them and every little thing but the pieces of me are spread so thin.


Lately it seems everyone I meet loves to tell me that girls are SO much harder than boys. I've never had a boy, so I don't know. So please don't tell me that. Just let me live in ignorance of the fact that not everyone is dealing with a household of high energy, high drama, high emotion and strong personalities. What would it be like to have a child or children that listened or didn't question everything you say. Little people that were complacent and happy to float through life in blissful obedience to your every request. I DON'T KNOW!!! My mom told me "Your girls are a delight, but they are tough, each and every one of them." How am I supposed to do and be for all four of my sweet and very strong girls? (I'm sure #4 will be just as strong-willed as the others. They are all related to Justin and I, therefore through genetics alone they have no choice.)


My point is not to complain. My point is this video really helped me sort things out in my brain. My problems are nothing in comparison to what others face. If Stephanie Nielson can accept her new life and a new physical version of herself after trials I can only imagine entered her life and be grateful for it, then I can and need to break through the fog of whatever that has been holding me back and help me find that true, deep, radiating and contented joy in my life again.


I know what the answer is. I've been fighting it because I'm stubborn and hate admitting I can't do and be everything all on my own. But I need to turn it over to Christ and invite His help and comfort into my life. I loved the quote by Jeffrey R. Holland at the end of the clip. It reminded my that Heavenly Father is there for me through all the things I don't understand or can't do. He is there waiting for me...but I have to be willing to accept His help.


There is a quote from Boyd K. Packer that says "Prayer is your personal key to heaven. The lock is on your side of the veil." I'm tired of having my door locked. I'm tired of being stubborn and scrappy and trying to do it on my own for some unknown, ridiculous reason. I'm ready to unlock the lock and ask for help and understanding. I know I need to embrace my new life, including the things I don't understand and know that it is all in His hands. I just need to have faith and surrender.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

It's A Girl!!!

I know, I know, it's been too long! We've been busy with many things, all of which I've been horrible about blogging about! But I just wanted to share the most exciting thing that's happened to us! We found out about a month ago our fourth sweet baby is a GIRL!!! This is a new ultrasound picture taken of her this last week and I was shocked at how much she looks like Maryn! I can't wait to kiss that face! We are still working on the perfect name just for her. But the proud Momma in me couldn't resist sharing a picture of my sweet, little Miss!

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

To My Daughters...

Tonight, my love for you is full. Wanting so bad to write in your journals. Searching, sorting. Living in bins and storage. They're not to be found. But I want each one of you to know how my heart squeezes tight in my chest when I think of you. When I think of how fiercely proud each one of you makes me. How stroking each of your cheeks as you each lay sleeping centers me in a way I feel nothing else in this world could. Do you know how you can take such an imperfect woman and make her cringe at her faults, but also give her hope for who she could be? My dear, beautiful daughters will you know how each one of you entering into my life has changed it for the good? Will you know when your grown how sorry I am for my imperfections? For sometimes waking up grouchy or not patiently listening to your questions that could unfold the universe? I often wonder once you are grown what your memories of me will be. I hope beyond hope that the years will find you always the best of friends. That you will come together to laugh and reminisce and even with my permission, to make fun of me. But mostly I hope that when the three of you look back you'll know regardless of my faults, I love you. With every shred and fiber of my being.

Tonight I rolled from my side to my back after finishing a book and my shirt came up, exposing my ever-rounding belly. What I saw brought a smile to my face. There shifted to one side of my belly was your baby brother or sister. I put my hand over the bump, feeling it fill the void in my warm and empty palm. A new life, a new journey, a new person cradled in my hand. It was the first moment that this new life, your new sibling, felt completely real to me. It reconfirmed to me the love I have for being a mother. It is single-handedly the most challenging thing I have ever or will ever do...and I'm grateful for it. Grateful for the chance to love this new life just as I love each of you. Grateful that out of all the people that could have come into my life, it was each one of you. So I hope you'll do your dear, old Mom a favor and know and never forget that each one of you are and always will be, my masterpiece.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Alright, I've had a few days to cool down and feel bad for hatin' on all the hippies. All the different personalities in this world even each other out. So even though they were all a little animated and in my grill, I guess they serve a purpose too. So hippies, sorry for the hate fest.
:)

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Enough for the Day

Justin had to come up to Portland this weekend to do a broadcast for a basketball game. So the kids and I decided to tag along and have a little fun before the game. When we left the house around 8:00 a.m. the air was thick with a dense fog. By the time we pulled into Portland three hours later, the sun had burned through the fog, it was about 65 degrees, with nothing but clear skies and clear views of beautiful Mt. Hood. It was going to be a glorious day!

Our first stop was Pine State Biscuits, which is a biscuit joint Justin and I saw on Diner's, Drive-In's and Dives (love that show). It was started by three guys from North Carolina and has big beautiful biscuits, gravy, fried green tomatoes, grit cakes and basically all the delicious Southern food I love but can't have, so stopping there was a must.

It was a tiny, little shop with a cool vibe, but it only had a few tables and the line was out the door. So we got our bag of deliciousness to go and took it to a park about 2 blocks away. The first 10 minutes or so I didn't even look around, focusing on my little bundle of Southern goodness. But as I wiped my mouth and polished off my orange juice, I lifted my eyes and kind of became more aware of my surroundings.

It was a beautiful day to be sure and people were out. And while it was still enjoyable, it kind of was a healthy dose of "you're not in the South anymore Toto". A woman, her mom, and child lazed in the grass together, with half of her blindingly-white butt crack hanging out. Not that I'm hating on white. I too am blindingly white, but a.) my butt crack does not hang out and b.) if I had seen a butt crack in the South it was more in a chic "I'm-so-cute-I-even-think-my-tan-little-butt-crack-is-cute-and-okay-to-show" kind of way. Not the case here.

I also noticed that the kids clothes were totally mismatched and hair uncombed. Some were still in jammies at noon and had just thrown on their wellies before heading out into public. I thought "Hmmm, I guess that's kind of nice that their parents are letting them be independent and dress themselves?" Knowing in Georgia the children would be dressed and groomed. Not a ringlet or big bow anywhere in sight. Then I looked at the parents and they too were disheveled, uncombed or looked like their dog had picked out their clothes at random. Just so you know, I am just a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. Nothing fancy, but I comb my hair and wear make-up...which NO ONE else was. I was just kind of taking it in, not necessarily judging, but noticing that the styles were WAY different here.

Then we headed down to Saturday's Market at Waterfront Park along the Willamette River. It was gorgeous out and the streets were teeming with people. The whole time I lived in Vancouver I never went to Saturday's Market and wanted to check it out, thinking it would be fun. The first thing that happened when we got there, pressing through the throngs of people, was to be accosted by a nice but overbearing college student who wanted us to join Greenpeace. As the kids squirmed through her schpeel, I caught bits and pieces of "Palm oils ("They put it in MAKE-UP!! Isn't that AWFUL!!!"), deforestation and orangutans being burned alive." I was kind of stunned this was happening as I was trying to just enjoy a day with my kids and husband. "Please join our cause to fight this injustice!" she pleaded wanting to sell us a Greenpeace membership. I was so annoyed. No, I don't want orangutans being burned alive, but dang it lady, this was neither the time or place. Just leave me be!

Justin politely disengaged us from the situation and we pressed on through the throngs of mismatched, uncombed, unbathed, dred-locked, odd-ball groups of people around us. Only to get to a corner where we were again trying to be recruited with all the youthful zeal of one's early twenties to "PROTECT WILDLIFE!". I'm glad people are passionate about things and work for causes, but dang it I just wanted to be left alone. We crossed the street as we headed towards the river where some nut-job was preaching hell, fire and damnation. Justin and I looked at each other with knowing eyes that said "Let's get the heck out of here." without even saying a word. We got the kids balloons from a guy, since we told them they could get something and high-tailed it out of there.

Next stop on my to-do list was go to Powell's Books. It's a cool, giant book store and I wanted the girls to pick out a book or two to celebrate our day out. We circled again and again. No parking anywhere...streets full, lots full. I felt myself getting tired and impatient as we circled. Noticing the many, many odd people and get-ups on the streets around me. (One girl had on fish-net stocking thigh-highs with a petticoat that barely graced the bottom of her butt cheeks and unmentionables with GIANT platform, lace-up, knee-high boots... not really a typical daytime look, but whatever, that's not even mentioning the top half of her body. Another was wearing what looked like shoulder pads (the kind football players wear) of scottish plaid spraying out of her neck like a severed artery... that's just the start...the 'fashions' are a whole post in themself) On one of our times around I noticed protesters camped outside Powell's. Time to nix that. I had neither the energy or patience to walk forever with three kids only to be accosted again by some nut-job.

The next stop was to be at Voo-doo Donuts where I had never eaten but read in Bon Appetit was a winner. We circled and circled looking for it in a maze of one-way and no-enter streets until we finally found it. But of course no parking and lines down the street. Across the street from it was a building that had "KEEP PORTLAND WEIRD" painted on the side of it. Well, that wasn't a problem, no lack of weirdness here.

Tired and fed up, we checked into our hotel, which thank heavens was normal-thank you Marriott! We had an early dinner of pizza before Justin had to head out to work. We were disappointed to get some of the weirdest/worst service ever (while I'm giving my order the dipstick behind the counter wanted me to bang on the window and yell to get another customer's attention outside for him...Embarassed, I gave a half-hearted arm-wave and the girl looked at me like I was a lunatic. Dipstick was irritated he had to do his job and go talk to the customers himself. He then proceeded to take my money and give me no pizza, no salad, and no drinks and no explanation as to when or where my food was coming from and continued to help other people while I stood there dumbly.) And of course we had to pay for parking. Long story short, as beautiful as it was today I think we are so ready to blast out of here. And if I don't see a stinky, dred-locked, "free hugs" sign waving, didgeridoo playin', loudmouth protesting hippy for a good long while, well...I'm okay with that. Portland, you are a beautiful, amazing city...overrun with nut jobs.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

I Know It Will Never Happen...

...but I before I die, I would love to meet this man and be a guest on his show.

He is Henry Louis Gates Jr. and he is the host of 'Faces of America' on PBS. If you've never watched one of his shows and seen what he does, you are missing out. I would simply love, love, love having that done for me.